Talking About Sex with Kids: How to Get Started – From Body Safety to Puberty

Based on insights from pediatric and behavioral health experts

Use Simple, Clear, Accurate Language 

• Use real anatomical terms (penis, vagina, uterus) 
• Avoid euphemisms – they can send the message that bodies are “shameful” 
• Keep explanations factual and age-appropriate 

Teach Body Safety Early & Often 

• Private parts are private 
• No one should: 
• Touch them 
• Ask to see them 
• Ask them to touch someone else 
• If something feels wrong: 
• Tell a trusted adult 
• They will not get in trouble 

Normalize Curiosity & Development 

• Exploring their body is normal at many ages 
• Use this as a chance to talk about: 
• Privacy 
• Body ownership 
• Boundaries 
• Simple message: 
• “Your body is yours. Some things are private. You can always come to me if something feels confusing or unsafe.” 

Follow Their Lead

• Answer what they ask -no more, no less 
• Kids will often ask, get what they need, then move on 
• If they want more detail, they’ll ask 

Talking About Puberty 

• Keep it private and respectful 
• Use neutral observations: 
• “Have you noticed changes like body odor or voice changes?” 
• Talking about others’ changes can feel less personal and ease the conversation 
• Reading a puberty book together can help 

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