Tips for Creating a Safe Space to Discuss Challenging Topics with Youth of All Ages

Based on insights from pediatric and behavioral health experts 

Why These Conversations Matter 

• Strengthens your relationship and builds trust 
• Helps kids learn your family’s values before peers take the lead 
• Linked to: 
  • Lower rates of risky behaviors 
  • Better emotional health 
  • Increased confidence asking for help 

First: Prepare Yourself 

• Feeling awkward or nervous is normal 
• Your discomfort is about your experience, not your child 
• Reflect on: 
  • How sex and bodies were talked about (or avoided) when you were growing up 
  • Cultural, religious, or personal beliefs that may make this harder 
• You don’t need all the answers, humility goes a long way 

Big Picture: Reframe “The Talk” 

• There is no single big sex talk, think many small, ongoing conversations throughout their childhood.  
• Starting early and continuing often builds trust, safety, and openness. 
• Kids who feel comfortable talking with parents are less likely to rely on peers or social media for misinformation. 

It’s Okay to Say: 

• “I’m not sure – let me find out.” 
• “That’s a great question for your pediatrician.” 
• “I feel a little uncomfortable, but I’m glad you asked.” 

Use Everyday Moments: 

• In the car (no direct eye contact helps!) 
• While cooking dinner 
• During walks or errands 
• After a scene in a movie or TV show 
• When they mention something they heard at school 

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